A quote I often tell those that I treasure. To be exact, mine goes along the line of "you deserve only the best and nothing less than that". 

I often hear the people around me telling me how they are unworthy of someone's love/respect. It could be their parents, their partners, their friends, anyone and sometimes, everyone. The reason behind that? Social expectations and words. While we think that some comments are just passing remarks, the society is too blind to see the impact words can make to one's confidence and mentality. Yes, everyone has the freedom of speech, you can say whatsoever you like. Personally, I feel that freedom of speech should only be given to people who has a satisfactory standard of EQ (Emotional Quotient). However, there are times where people just make stupid decisions that make you unable to compromise. Back to my point. People judge.

No matter where you go, what you do, your looks, your personality. From head to toe, people will judge. That's life, but that's not who you are. You define yourself, not their words. Their words will influence you in how you are going to define yourself. It can make you stronger or make you weaker. You choose if you want to prove them wrong or prove them right. If others tell you that you are weak, you prove them wrong. If others tell you that you are strong, you prove them right. You need to believe in yourself before you can get others to believe you. Only you know what you deserve. Do not think that you deserve anything lesser just because someone else tells you so. You set your worth.

If someone compliments you, be nice, say thanks and say something nice back. You are not being humble by them turning away. You do not look down on yourself. If you are not what they say you are, do something and by something i mean go and be what they say you are. You accept compliment with class and confidence. You do not go on and boost about yourself. If someone disparage you, you riposte with kindness. You do not let them bring you down, but you do not bring yourself down to their standards by retaliating.

Confidence = Worth? Well, to a certain extent. All in all, you determine your worth. People can judge all they want, but they are not you. They do not know the real you to determine who you are and what you are worthy of.

With that being said, reconsider your worth. In fact, you are worth more than you think. You are better than you think you are. You deserve much more than you expect. Whether in love relationship or friendship, no one should endure pain just because you think that you are unworthy of the other party's love. What have you done to suffer in this unhealthy relationship? 

In a relationship, there will be complications and mixed feelings, but pain is not part of love. You can be sad and/or angry, but at the end of the day, these emotions will resolve into deeper understanding and consideration of one another. If these emotions end up hurting you over a long period of time, do not endure it. One thing for sure is that this person who is causing the pain has not done anything or enough to subside your pain over a long period of time, he/she will never attempt to completely remove your pain. That pain will be there forever. FYI, that person is not hurting you, you are hurting yourself. Why? Because you choose to ignore this pain, you choose to endure it. 

Unknowingly, the pain will slowly spread, it will worsen over time. You knew there is a crack in your heart, he/she does not do anything to heal it, you choose to let it be. The crack starts to grow. No one does anything to stop it. When your heart breaks, who is going to be responsible for it? He/She will be gone and there is no one left, but you. Is it worth it? No. You do not deserve these. Everyone in this world deserve to be happy. No one deserves to be in pain.

This does not mean he/she is not worth your love. If you knew what you deserve, you would have done something to make sure you are being treated right. You will do things to show/tell he/she your worth and make sure he/she treats you that way. If he/she does not, then find someone who thinks you are worthy of their love. Treasure people who treasure you. The best knows the best and deserves the best. If he/she feels that you deserve the best, then this person deserves the best that you can give.

Best is only for one person and that one person should be you. If he/she is going to treat another person the same way they treat you, you are not the best.

If you think you are not worth it, leave. If he/she thinks you are not worth it, leave. If you think he/she is not worth it, leave. If he/she thinks he/she is not worth it, find a way to prove that they are. If you end up getting hurt in the process, leave before the pain gets too intense, because they are not worth it.